One year ago today, my fiance and I got engaged, and I remember that for a few hours after, we didn't tell anyone. We wanted to enjoy the glow on our own. In retrospect, I actually wish I'd taken even more time to keep the news to ourselves. Because it seems like as soon as one person knows, the advice (solicited or not) starts rollin' in -- from wedding magazines to websites, vendors to friends, and, of course, well-meaning family. Then, you start feeling like you have to learn the "rules" of the wedding planning road you're inevitably going to be navigating. Like the "proper" way to do this or the "right" way to do that.
Photo: Docuvitae / The Knot
But let's face it -- some wedding rules were made to be broken. Because they're annoying, pedantic, antiquated, or just don't fit you and the person you're about to marry, etc. Here, 12 wedding rules a bride should feel free to break or make her own ...
1) Using "formal" wording on the invitations. This is one I was grappling with recently. Who says the invite being sent to your best friend Sally -- who just happened to marry Joe Smith -- has to be addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smith"? As a good friend told me, there are no etiquette police at the post office! Trying to follow proper etiquette is one thing, but feeling like you have to address your closest friends in an impersonal, outdated way is another.
2) Wearing a veil. Hey, it's not for everyone.
3) Wearing a blusher. It's really not for everyone. I'm still not sure what to do ... (But because the unveiling can be an especially emotional part of a Jewish ceremony, I think I'm gonna go for it.)
4) Having an equal bridesmaids to groomsmen ratio. No one's really going to notice or care if you have a gaggle of besties, and your guy only has his three bros. And a good photog can arrange the bridal party so your pics look awesome.
5) Putting the carriage before the marriage. It's not just celebs like Kim Kardashian, Kristin Cavallari, or Jessica Simpson doing it these days. Sometimes it just happens that you get pregnant before becoming a bride -- or you find yourself a pregnant bride!
6) Sleeping apart the night before. In this day and age of most couples living together for years before they say "I do," no one says you have to spend your last night as a Miss without your Mister. If you're more comfortable being together, consider what my friend said she and her hubby did: "We slept together the night before our wedding, woke up, and said, 'Let's do this!'"
7) Having "photogenic," designer shoes. Some brides totally freak out over having the right Louboutins, because someone's going to see them -- even if it's just the photographer! But every bride's priority should be comfort -- whether they're walking down the aisle in Jimmy Choos, Toms, or flip-flops!
8) Wearing a white dress. Who say it has to be white? Or long? Or anything other than what you want to wear on your wedding day ...
9) Writing separate vows or writing your own vows at all. You may want to write them together or stick to the traditional and/or religious ones.
10) Skipping the "cheesy" traditions. Some brides get hung up on being unique and different that they actually pass on doing some of the things they would have liked to do. Do what you want!
11) Going on the honeymoon right away. Sometimes, airfare is cheaper a week or 10 days after your wedding. Sometimes, you have to do a mini-moon instead. Or wait a year for your big trip.
12) Having what most would consider a traditional wedding at all. If eloping or pulling a Zuckerberg or going to town hall is more your thing, do it!
What wedding rule did you break or do you feel was meant to be broken?
The other day I packed up my gear bag and headed into the centre of Ochi Rios. My goal was to capture the pure spirit of some Jamaican people in their daily lives. Despite their daily hustle and grind, these people were happy to be photographed by me, and to share their pure, joyous spirits.
August 8th 2013? Has it been that long? Over a year since I began this
blog. Only to make two post before quitting my blogging career. As a children we often take for granted adults whining about
how time flies. As an adult myself now, I certainly can appreciate this truth. This year has been such an amazing one. I am so grateful for all the
opportunities I have been fortunate to experience. I have traveled to many
beautiful places in the world and have met some really incredible individuals. I have grown
as a young woman tremendously and learned so much about myself. One thing is
clear, I not a "blogger", however I will once again take on the task of
documenting some parts of my life, through this blog. This time a little
differently. This time, I'll be documenting my experiences as Photographer. Yes
I know, beauty queen/model, now you're a Photographer? Why yes, yes I am.
Photography has always been one of my greatest passions. I am a Photographer,
among other things, and I absolutely love what I do. I hope you enjoy following
Confession: I completely forgot ½ the moves of the opening number on stage. This is where peripheral vision comes in handy. Just follow along, and never loose that
“I know exactly what I’m doing” smile.
Catch the camera man totally checking me out. ^^^ (lol) He's actually a friend of mine.
“In the event of a slippery stage, sandpaper the bottom of your shoes.” Who came up with this nonsense? A well known pageant "secret" that totally does not work, and neither does duck tape! Rubber soles and a comfortable heel however = comfortable, confident walk.
Negativity. People will always have something to say to try and throw you off your game. Be confident in yourself and your decisions, and be fabulous!
With all the chaos going on backstage of a live television show production, expect (and plan for) the unexpected. From shoes straps failing, earrings breaking, to major dress malfunctions. Always have a plan B, C, & D. In fact, my evening gown.. was a plan B.
Why I decided to where short hair? Well, why not! Approaching coronation night, many people had much to say about me wearing my naturally short hair to compete in a beauty pageant. Mostly positive, but some not so much. “You need pageant hair, you need glamorous hair” they said. I personally don’t believe glamorous or beautiful hair means long, flowing, big barrel curled weave; although big barrel curled weave is very pretty ☺. My natural hair is fabulous honey! When people have something to say about your hair, your body, the clothes you wear, whatever, listen.. take their advice for what its worth, but at the end of the day, do what you feel is best for YOU. Be certain and beautiful with all that you are, and work it!
In regards to a certain Mr. Minister and his comments regarding my #economybody, and my *clears throat* #BESTFIGURE..
I've accepted your apology and still wish you all the best ☺.
Overall, Gina Hargitay is a phenomenal Miss Jamaica World. I'm so happy for her! She’s wickedly intelligent, and stunningly beautiful inside and out. The girl is quite incredible. I wish her much success at the upcoming Miss World and hopes she brings home the crown!!
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.' We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?" -Marianne Williamson One of my favorite quotes ever, and I believe many people can relate. Personally, more than I am afraid of total failure, I'm terrified of succeeding beyond my wildest dreams.There's a little part of me that feels that I just might not be good enough. But in the wise words of YouTube viral sensation Sweet Brown.. "ain't no nobody got time for that", life is too short. Just yesterday I was 16 years old, imagining where I would be in a few years.. and here I am, in the moments I imagined. I don't want to look back when I'm 25 or 75 and wish I would have started today. As I fullfill my goals, and do the things I was once afraid of doing, that little voice saying "your not good enough" gets more and more quiet. If one shoots for the moon and disastrously fails, at least they'll be among the stars. So shoot for the moon. But don't fail. Failure is not an option. Im just a girl with big dreams, conspiring a master plan to conquer The Universe ; gain incredible experiences, meet phenomenal people, look fabulous, contribute to my community, save the world, and inspire others along the way. Welcome to My Official Blog. Sincerely, Jenaae.